Counselor Spotlight: Piper Williams, LPC

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would love for you to get to know Piper Williams, LPC. After taking time away from the mental health field to raise her children, Piper proudly works with teenage girls and women to help them rediscover their worth. We are so thankful for her expertise and passion. If you’re interested in booking a session with Piper, please click the link at the bottom of the page. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I am originally from San Antonio and attended school at Texas Tech and UH Clear Lake. Although I worked in the mental health field for many years prior to having a family, after achieving my masters in counseling, I decided to take time to raise our children and did not return to counseling until about 10 years ago. It is so rewarding and I’m so glad I did!

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am passionate about helping teen girls and women find their purpose in life, especially those that struggle with depression, anxiety and low self-worth. I struggled with those things myself as a teen and have found myself having come full circle now that I have the blessing to serve my clients

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

Own a ranch and lots of animals!

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Many of the clients I serve don’t know who they really are, what their gifts are, or where their identity lies. I have found that once I help a client to identify those, they SOAR!

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

God has a purpose for your life. Just trust in Him.

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Dog! We have two and I can’t imagine my life without them. I am also a horse person. My horse, Teddy is 30 years old and we spend time together daily

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Zanata's

What do you like to do in your free time?

I love taking walks with my husband. We try to do that almost every day. I treasure it.

What’s your favorite time of year?

Summer! I love it because I can see my kids more, and I love the hot weather.

What is your favorite place to visit?

I took each of our teenage kids on separate occasions on a spontaneous trip to NYC last year... only 2-3 days but it was lots of fun and such an adventure!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

I would love to meet actress, Jennifer Garner. Supposedly we look alike, but more importantly, I love her personality and the character roles she plays

How to Make Journaling an Intentional Practice in the New Year

One of the top tools that any mental health professional will tell you to use in your mental health journey is journaling. Journaling can be used in a number of different ways:  writing down your thoughts and feelings, reflecting on the events of the day, setting your intentions for the week, writing letters to your future self, setting goals about the future, prayer, tracking healthy habits, and so many other things. You can find tons of blank journal options at retailers, but if you’ve never kept a diary or journal before, it can feel overwhelming to just sit down with no prompt and begin writing. You may end up just staring at the paper and feeling more overwhelmed than you were before. If you’re wanting to incorporate journaling into your mental health practices in the new year, we’ve compiled a few great journals, at different price points, and for different purposes, that can help you as you start this process. 

Papier Gratitude Journals

Papier is an online retailer for all types of paper goods from stationery to journals and more. Papier has tons of beautiful styles to choose from because much like picking out the perfect outfit can boost your mood, having a lovely journal to write in can feel like an act of self-care in and of itself. 

Pros:  These journals are made in the USA and use ethically sourced paper and non-plastic packaging. They also contain both morning and evening prompts, so no matter when you decide to journal, you have a prompt for that occasion. 

Cons:  While they look amazing, Papier journals are on the higher end as far as price goes. They run about $35 when they are not on sale. They also only contain about five months worth of prompts, so they may not last you as long as other options. 

Promptly Gratitude Journals

Promptly is another company that specializes in journals. They have a ton of options for different types of journaling, including the gratitude journal linked above, and they even have a journal specifically for people working through anxiety and postpartum journeys. These are also spiral bound if you prefer that style for writing!

Pros:  These journals are a little less expensive, coming in around $30. They also have more simplistic designs if that’s more of what you’re looking for. They also contain 52 full weeks of journal prompts and space for free-writing at the end of each week’s prompts. 

Cons:  The one downside in comparison to Papier journals is that Promptly does not explicitly mention where they source their paper, so if environmentalism is important to you, this might not be the choice for you. 

Intelligent Change

Intelligent Change’s products are more specific in purpose. They focus on mindfulness and specific goals. These simple, straightforward journals would be great for anyone who wants to have specific focuses as they journal.

Pros:  These journals are at a really affordable price point, coming in at $20. They also provide lots of structure for people who are just starting out in learning to journal. They also have six months worth of undated pages, meaning that you can start journaling any time. 

Cons: Because the prompts are more structured, there is less space for free-writing if that’s something that you’re looking for in a journal. 

Other Options

These are certainly not the only journal options on the market. (And we’re not paid or sponsored to promote these particular ones!) You can find tons of options similar to these at Barnes and Noble, Target, or even Half Price Books. Even some of the boutiques in downtown Rockwall have beautiful journals as part of their inventory!  Another option can be to look on Etsy. Many creators there will hand paint or hand etch journals for an even more personalized book. Another option you may be interested in is bullet journaling. This is like a “create your own adventure” type of journal where you take a grided or dotted journal (rather than one with lines) and create spaces for journaling, to-do lists, long-term goals, calendar, health habits tracking, etc. Bullet journaling is great for people who enjoy doodling and using markers or watercolors as a way to relax. You can create your own bullet journal or search for a pre-made version.

Whatever you choose to use, we hope that if you are wanting to be more intentional in your journaling practice this coming year, you find a tool that best fits your needs. If you’re reading this and still wondering why journaling would be important or how you can use it to achieve your mental health goals, please connect with us here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. It would be our honor to talk with your about your goals and help you achieve optimum mental wellness. 

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight: Kristen Velasquez, LPC

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We are excited to introduce you to Kristen Velasquez, LPC. Born and raised in Alabama, Kristen moved to the Rockwall area in 2018. Kristen is passionate about working with women, couples and families who are looking to strengthen their family dynamic. We are so thankful for her expertise and hard work! We hope you’ll take the time to get to know her a little more.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I decided to pursue counseling after taking just one psychology class in college! I got my graduate degree at Lipscomb University in Nashville, TN, but I grew up in Alabama. My husband and I met in Dallas in 2014, and we moved to Rockwall in 2018.

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I feel a special draw towards perinatal women and couples/family relationships!

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I truly can’t see myself in any other field! If I wasn’t doing this I would probably want to just stay at home with my children.

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Right now, the biggest struggle may be accessibility and affordability of therapy. We live in very tough times and the healthcare system doesn’t always make it easy to get therapy quickly or affordably, and insurance panels are difficult to work with for a lot of therapists, which leads them not to want to accept insurance.

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my grandmother! There has never existed a more patient woman.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

It’s okay if people don’t like you, and you don’t have to change yourself or pretend like you don’t need what you need in order to get people to stick around.

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

I would tell them that therapy is like taking your car to the shop. You do it for an oil change and you do it after a wreck. Both times, it’s worth the money and effort

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

I am an animal person! I have always had both dogs and cats in my home!

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

Pineapples do not belong on pizza, no. I can’t imagine a greater assault to my pizza taste buds!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

My husband and I love Ramen Head in the square!

What do you like to do in your free time?

In my free time I like to exercise or read! My husband and I have done kickboxing and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu together.

What’s your favorite time of year?

My favorite time of year is Fall because it starts a series of really happy times for me! My birthday and wedding anniversary are both in October (yay gifts!), then Halloween and October leads into Thanksgiving, which leads into Christmas and New Years. Just really great memories for this time of year for me!

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been with my husband since 2014! We met at an MMA gym and continue to exercise together. I have two daughters, Lily (4) and Camilla (2), and I gave birth to my son in July of this year!

What is your favorite place to visit?

My favorite place to visit is Alabama, as that is where most of my family of origin lives.

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

I would have to say Jesus! I believe the world today needs clarification on a few things and I’d like to ask him about that

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I am an extroverted introvert! I am mostly happy to keep to myself and my small family, but I do crave social interaction at times!

Holiday Overload: Avoiding the Rush of the Holiday Season

The month of December is, as it does every year, flying quickly past. It seems like we just put away the Thanksgiving leftovers, and now Christmas is less than two weeks away. We all want the holiday season to feel festive and light, to enjoy time with family and friends, and to make sure our children feel loved even more than usual. But the reality of this time of year is that there is SO MUCH going on. There are themed dress-up days for kids at school, end-of-year concerts, class and office parties, gifts to buy for neighbors, and teachers, and friends, and family. There are worthy causes that support the less-fortunate, meals to plan, and memories to be made. If you’re feeling rushed off your feet to the point that the holidays don’t seem so festive, you are not alone. This rushed busyness is a huge part of why people often struggle with their mental health at the start of a new year. There’s been so much going on, we often forget to focus on what is important. Whether you want to refocus right now for this holiday season, or you’re looking ahead to future holidays, there are things you can do to minimize stress and maximize the impact of the activities you choose this time of year.

Ahead of time:

Be clear in your family’s priorities for the holiday season. Talk with your partner about what is most important to your family in regards to the holidays. Do you want to make sure to get family Christmas cards out, so relatives and friends who live far away can get an update on your lives? Is it important to you to give back to your community? Do you want your family’s focus to be on faith aspects of the holidays? Is it important to spend a certain amount of time together as a nuclear family? By answering these types of questions, you can start to figure out which events and functions are most important to you as you plan around the holidays.

Make a clear plan for non-negotiable events. As invitations and dates start to roll in, you’ll likely realize that you won’t be able to be everywhere at once. Communicate clearly with your family which events will be attended by whom and what dates are most important. For example, if one child has a gymnastics Christmas party on the same night as the other kid’s band concert, plan which parent will attend which event ahead of time. It may not be perfect, but you can have an idea of what to do, rather than panicking at the last second.

Make a list of non-family members that you plan to buy gifts for and include a price point. This will allow you to be generous to those that are most important in your life while also not stressing over forgetting someone or the cost. If you plan this ahead of the holidays, hopefully you’ll have fewer little last minute surprises! *Pro-tip: We all have occasions pop up where we need to buy a gift we weren’t expecting. We’re invited to a party and need a hostess gift or a neighbor buys us something, and we don’t want to be rude. Keep a small stash that you can purchase throughout the year of “good for anyone gifts” like your favorite hand lotion or other personal care items that can be added to a small gift card for an easy present!

Think about what family traditions are most important to your family and schedule those into the holidays. Growing up, we always spend the Friday after Thanksgiving at home, eating lasagna, decorating the Christmas tree, and watching a holiday movie. Maybe you love to take your kids to Northpark to see Santa or you love attending the Rockwall tree lighting or your church’s candlelight service. Put those events on the calendar ahead of time, so they’re prioritized for everyone!

Feeling rushed now?

You can still prioritize the current holiday season and refocus today.

Be present in the quiet moments. Whenever you are with loved ones, make the conscious effort to put your phone down, and be with the people around you. It’s amazing what simply disconnecting from technology can do for your mood and attitude during a stressful season.

Remember that “No, thank you,” is a complete sentence. You don’t HAVE to say yes to every invitation. It’s perfectly fine to decline to attend a gathering if it’s only going to make you more stressed, stretched more thin, spend too much money, or take time away from what you want to prioritize. You don’t owe anyone a long explanation of why or an elaborate excuse. You can still be polite and say “Thank you so much for including us. We just won’t be able to make it.”

Take time to reflect on why the holidays are important to you. Whether you are a person of faith celebrating a religious holiday or this time of year is important to you as a time to focus on giving to others and spending time with family, refocusing on your “why” can be impactful in dealing with the extra events and planning around the holidays. Take a few minutes to make a list of what you enjoy about the holidays and why this time of year is special. It can truly help in feeling more at peace and less hurried.

At Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, we truly understand that this time of year can be especially stressful, and we want to help you feel joy and be at peace during the holidays. If you’re struggling with any mental health issues, related to the holidays or not, please connect with us. We would be honored to help you!

Counselor Spotlight: Kaci Pullin LPC-Associate, Supervised by Lauren Smith, LPC-S

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We are thrilled to introduce you to Kaci Pullin. Kaci is another one of our LPC-Associates being supervised by Lauren Smith LPC-S. Kaci loves working with adolescents and young adults as well as teaching clients about the importance of nutrition in supporting mental health. We are so glad to have Kaci as part of our team, and we know she will continue to make a positive impact in people’s lives for many years to come. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I attended Collin College for my Associate’s degree, then transferred to Southern Methodist University where I completed my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I also completed my Master’s degree in Counseling at SMU. I was born and raised in Rowlett, TX and I currently live in Wylie, TX.

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I’m most passionate about working with adolescents and young adults as they navigate the unique challenges, changes, and choices that arise during the period of transition between childhood and adulthood. Because adolescence is ripe with change, it can often be a period of considerable stress. I aim to provide a welcoming space for teens to process their emotions and learn skills to successfully manage stressors.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I’d want to be a dietician, helping people understand how they can utilize food and nutrition to promote physical and mental health, prevent and manage illness, and lead healthier, longer lives.

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

One of the biggest struggles facing my clients is getting stuck in unproductive, negative thinking and behavior patterns.

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I have such admiration and respect for my maternal grandfather. He lived a life in service to others; he served his country in the military for 20 years, volunteered in his community and church, and was a pillar of strength and wisdom for his family. He passed away in 2016 but I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to know him.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Strive for progress and growth, not perfection.

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

When I’m struggling with decision making, I like to do a cost-benefit analysis. Grab a sheet of paper, create two columns, and list out potential costs alongside potential benefits of starting therapy. Consider how important – or how much significance – each of these costs and benefits have, given your circumstances. My guess is that the benefits of therapy will outweigh the costs!

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Dog person all the way! I have a 6 year-old goldendoodle named Charlie; he adds so much joy to my life!

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

For me personally, no! I’d rather have all the veggies on my pizza.

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

My favorite meal of the day is breakfast, so my go-to restaurant in Rockwall is Book Club Café!

What do you like to do in your free time?

I enjoy taking Charlie on long walks, tending to my many houseplants, baking and cooking new recipes, and going to the lake with my husband and family.

What’s your favorite time of year?

Fall! I love when the leaves begin to change colors and the air is brisk.

Tell us a little about your family.

I am an only child. I’m extremely close with my parents; we see each other for weekly dinners! I’ve been married to my husband for 2 years; he works in finance and loves to fish.

What is your favorite place to visit?

I love visiting Carmel-by-the-Sea, California. It feels like a quaint, coastal European town but you don’t need a passport to visit; the scenery is just beautiful!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Rich Roll. I listen to his podcast weekly; I’m inspired by his story of recovery and admire how he uses his platform to facilitate conversations on all things health, fitness, nutrition, art, entertainment, entrepreneurship, and spirituality.

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Introverted.

Practicing Gratitude to Improve Mindset

During this time of year, we often find ourselves distracted. The holiday season can be a stressful time for many. Whether is it because we’re needing to hold boundaries we’ve set with family members that we will now see at holiday gatherings, or simply because of the seemingly endless lists of things to do, places to go, and events to organize, even the cheeriest time of year can feel like we’re struggling to find peace.

Impacts of Gratitude

One way that we can refocus during this time of busyness and hurry is to work on improving our mindset in general. That may seem like a lofty aspiration or like something that is too complicated to work towards, but there is actually a very simple way to improve your mindset starting now that will carry throughout the holiday season. And, if you continue this practice, it will only continue to improve your mindset and positively impact your mental health. Practicing gratitude is one proven way to improve your mindset and make sure that your mental health is a priority.

Expressing and focusing on gratitude and thankfulness has so many benefits to our mindset and ultimately our mental health. A grateful attitude and mindset is by nature positive, and when we’re more focused on the positive things in our lives, it is harder to be negative. Researchers have shown that while gratitude cannot cure depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues, simple gratitude practices positively impact patients’ outcomes in dealing with these struggles.

Gratitude places us in the present. Rather than focusing on what we don’t have or the things we’re worried about for the future, when we are grateful, we are fully focused on the present. This means we are less likely to be burdened by the past or anxious about the future.

Gratitude can also have a significant impact on our relationships. Researchers at Harvard Medical School noted that couples who took the time to thank their partners had more positive thoughts toward the other person and felt more comfortable expressing concerns about the relationship. When we know we are valued by our partner because they express consistent gratitude and thanks, we feel more secure. We know that even if there are disagreements or issues, they appreciate us as a person, and they want what is best for our life together.

Practicing Gratitude

The Oxford English Dictionary defines gratitude as “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and return kindness,” but what does that look like in our every-day lives? There are so many creative ways that you can focus on gratitude, but these are just a few to get you started:

• Keep a gratitude journal. - Start or end every day by writing down three things for which you are thankful. They can be incredibly simple: your health, your family, your job, warm coffee, the ability to exercise, getting to see a friend, really anything that you noticed in your day that brought you joy or a sense of thankfulness. Focus on those three things for ten minutes, thinking about why they are important to you and how you can bring more of this type of thing into your life. You’ll be quickly surprised by how many things you have to be thankful for in life.

• Write a thank you note. - Think about the people in your life who have had a positive impact. Sit down and write them a note, telling them why they are important to you and how they have positively affected you. This focus on others can almost instantly shift your mindset away from problems or troubles in your life to something good and uplifting. As an added bonus, they get the benefit of knowing you appreciate them.

• Be intentional in thanking those around you. - Especially during the holidays, everyone’s stress levels are high. It can be easy to slip into transactional interactions with others - cashiers, retail workers, restaurant servers, etc. - without ever really thanking them. Try to make a point of taking an extra few seconds to make eye contact with the person you’re receiving a service from and thanking them for their time and effort. This may seem like an obvious thing to do, but we’ve all been in such a hurry that we didn’t even notice the human in front of us. Slowing down to be intentional in our thankfulness toward others has a positive impact in our own lives as well as in theirs.

• Give back to your community. - While giving may not seem like an act of gratitude, it really is. In order to give to others, we have to first recognize that we are in a situation where we have enough to give. We have enough time to volunteer. We have enough clothing that we can make a donation. We have enough money to help buy coats or gifts for children in our local schools. We have enough change to put a little in the Salvation Army collection bucket. Even if the gift to others seems small, its impact can be large, for others and yourself. If you know you have enough and are grateful for what you have, then you can give to others out of a full and joyful heart.

We at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness are grateful for you, our community. We appreciate your continued support and are thankful to be a part of your lives. We know that working with individuals, couples, and families to foster improved mental health and strong relationships is an immense responsibility, one we do not take lightly. Thank you for trusting us with your well-being!

Counselor Spotlight - Ryann Rich, LPC-Associate, Supervised by Lauren Coats, LPC-S

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We would love to introduce you to Ryann Rich one of the LPC-Associates here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. Ryann is being supervised during her work by our owner, Lauren Coats, LPC-S. We are so honored Ryann has chosen to do this work with us, and we know she is a wonderful asset to our team.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

Becoming a counselor was something I always knew I wanted accomplish and being a part of the helping field was a non-negotiable for me. I am so passionate about my job and could not imagine being in any other occupation😊 I got my Bachelors of Science degree in Rehabilitation Services at Stephen F. Austin State University, and completed my Masters of Science degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at The University of North Texas at Dallas shortly after. I was born and raised in Rockwall, (JFND!!!) and am currently residing in Uptown, Dallas!

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am most passionate about working with teens and young adults. I have worked with all ages and welcome anyone who is seeking out counseling for the betterment of their mental health!

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I would probably be working with the special needs population in some form or fashion. I was raised with my special needs older brother, Andrew, and have been employed with rehabilitation centers of mentally disabled adults while in graduate school, which is something I enjoyed tremendously. I have so much love for these people and would be happy working with them as a career!

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my mom and sister the most. They are both amazing role models not only through their Christian faith, but in many other aspects as well. My mom has always been my rock throughout my life, and my sister’s strength is something I have always admired. I am extremely blessed with an amazing and close-knit family who I feel constant support from!

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

I think everyone can benefit from going to counseling at least once in their life. It is an investment in yourself and can help you in so many ways. I recommend it to anyone and everyone 😊

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Dog person 100% (I am biased to Basset Hounds specifically)

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

Unfortunately, I cannot get behind this idea!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Either Edo Japan for sushi, Joe Willies, Zanata or Chiloso, of course!

What do you like to do in your free time?

I would consider myself to be a social butterfly, so I love to spend time with my friends, family, and boyfriend. I also love crafting and photography 😊

What’s your favorite time of year?

I love all season except when it is 30 degrees outside – Texas girl through and through!

Tell us a little about your family.

My family consists of my mom (Lisa), brother (Andrew), sister (Darby), brother-in-law (Marco), my sweet baby niece (Richie), and one nephew on the way (Name is TBD)! My dad passed away from cancer when I was 18 - I always want to include him, because he was such an amazing dad, a huge part of my life, and a big reason why I am a therapist today!

What is your favorite place to visit?

Any beach!!!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

I would choose my late dad - I would love to catch him up on life since he has been gone and give him the biggest hug imaginable. Can’t wait for that reunion one day!

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Definitely extroverted 😊

Dealing with Pregnancy and Infant Loss

October is recognized as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. In light of this, we at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness want to take a moment here on our blog to recognize those of you affected by this and honor your journey. We know that no words typed here can ever lessen the depth of your grief, but we hope you know we are deeply sorry. We grieve alongside you and your families and hope you find comfort and peace. 

As you process this immense loss, there are things that mental health professionals agree can be helpful. 

Acknowledge that the loss you are grieving is real and the emotions you feel are valid. 

One unfortunate thing that happens around pregnancy loss is that there is a societal norm that tends to diminish the loss as being “just a pregnancy” or “at least it was early on.” But the reality is that no matter how far along your pregnancy was when you miscarried or lost an infant child, your grief is very real. Surround yourself with those who validate your grief and support any healthy way in which you choose to cope with the loss. 

Find ways to honor the child you’ve lost. 

Many communities offer nights of remembrance for child and pregnancy loss in which participants can light candles, release balloons, or say a few words honoring their loved one. This may help you feel that you have honored your child in a way that you were previously unable to. Others have said that creating remembrance books, shadow boxes or other physical reminders of their child’s life is helpful. You could include things such as sonogram images, pregnancy tests, inked footprints or other items that you find significant. Even if you don’t display this, it can be helpful in remembering and honoring your child. 

Communicate your feelings openly and honestly with those whom you feel safest. 

As with any situation in which you grieve, the loss of a pregnancy or infant loss comes with many emotions. You may feel anger, resentment, frustration, confusion, or a myriad of other things. Talk to those around you who you know will listen without judgment or without trying to “fix” the situation. If this is not something you’re sure where to find, consider talking with a licensed mental health professional as you process your experience. 

Know that this is not your fault. 

As humans, it is our natural response to unexplainable situations to try to explain them. We want a reason for what we’re experiencing, especially when it is tragic or difficult. You may be seeking a reason this happened to your family to try to avoid another loss or simply to feel more assurance. But even if there is no known reason for what occurred, it is important to remember that you did nothing wrong. Most pregnancy and infant loss is through no fault of the mother or anyone else. You did nothing wrong. This is not your fault. If seeking answers to the question of “why” is making you more anxious or more frustrated, it may be better to let that search go, and you can work with someone to learn how to speak truth to yourself about the situation rather than focusing on what you don’t know. 

Seek out support groups or other organizations that connect people going through pregnancy or infant loss. 

One way to find comfort in situations like these is to come together with people who have a shared experience. Shared experiences create empathy, and while it’s great for people to sympathize with you and want you to feel comfort, empathy is different. Empathy says “I’ve stood where you stand, and we can get through this together.” You may find support groups through your local church, your healthcare provider, or through organizations like the March of Dimes. 

At the end of the day, your grief is your own. No one can tell you exactly how you should grieve or what process you may need to go through. If you’re faced with well-intentioned people who offer platitudes like “at least…” or, “You can always try again,” keep in mind a few things. First, those people do not say these things out of malice or unkindness. They’re likely doing what we all naturally do when someone we know is suffering - trying to say or do anything to be helpful. No one likes feeling that they can’t help, and often we will say the first thing that comes to mind in a situation like this. It is not your responsibility to teach them what to say. 

Pregnancy and infant loss is something no one should ever have to go through, but if you find yourself going through it, you are not alone. 10-20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. It is estimated that 1 in 4 women will experience a pregnancy loss in their lifetime. If you would like to speak to one of our licensed therapists or counselors about your grief and your healing, click the link below to get started. It would be our honor to walk alongside you through this difficult time. 

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Emilee Maxwell LPC-Associate, Supervised by Lauren Coats, LPC-S

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We’d love to introduce you to one of our LPC-Associates, Emilee Maxwell. Emilee brings a strong background in Psychology and early intervention therapies for kids and teens to our team, and we are so glad she chose to work with Lauren as she finishes her licensing process. She is so wonderful, and we hope you’ll take the time to get to know her a little more.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area? 

I knew I wanted to be a counselor since I got my first job as a Registered Behavior Technician in college. I received my undergraduate education from Texas A&M with a bachelor of science in Psychology. I then went on to Southern Methodist University for graduate school where I received my M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I have lived in Rockwall since I was 11 so I say I half grew up here! 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am most passionate about working with kids and teens. I believe all people need support at some point in their lives, and early intervention is so important to live a well-adjusted adult life.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I have always dreamed of being a hair and make up artist! Maybe one day :) 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money? 

Invest in yourself, it's worth it! Even counselors have counselors. :) 

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

I was a cat person until my teenage years and am fully converted to a dog person! I blame my parents for all those years of making me clean the litter box LOL.

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

I like them on there, but have to be in the mood!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

Chiloso, forever and always!

What do you like to do in your free time? 

I like to spend time with my husband, our two dogs, go on walks, and read books!

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Christmas time. Which for me is November - January :) 

Tell us a little about your family. 

I was raised with 3 older brothers which automatically meant I was protected and spoiled! We all live close by which I am grateful for. I married my best friend in April of this year and he is the best person I know! We have two fur babies, a golden retriever named Honey and a cocker spaniel mix named Lillie. I am blessed with the best family!

What is your favorite place to visit? 

Either Steamboat Springs or St. Thomas! 

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why? 

My grandma! She was my best friend. I would love to tell her all I have accomplished so far in life and see her smile back at me. I miss her everyday!

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Always been an extrovert, but as I get older I'd say I'm a happy medium!

Anticipatory Grief

There is a different kind of grief that we as a society don’t often discuss. It is the grief that comes before and alongside. It is the grief that we begin to feel when the bad news comes, when the diagnosis is confirmed. And it never really leaves us until it becomes the grief of the actual loss. 

Anticipatory grief is the feeling of grief or loss before a loss ever happens. People experience anticipatory grief when they know the eventual outcome of a situation will be the loss of a loved one. Anticipatory grief has been studied in those who are close to and caring for people with terminal cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, ALS, and other life-limiting diseases and disorders. While some argue that this type of diagnosis can give loved ones time to prepare for a loss, there is also a prolonged suffering and pain associated with anticipatory grief that weighs heavily on those who go through it. One caregiver described it as this:

“It’s like stubbing your toe really hard, over and over. The pain of the first slam into the edge of the door never fully goes away before you’ve hit the exact same spot again the next morning. There is constant, lingering pain from the impact, and the acute pain of the reinjury. You’re constantly reminded that you’re hurt, and that you’re going to continue to hurt for a long time.”

If you’ve ever experienced this with a loved one, be it friend or family, you know exactly what this feels like. The initial terminal diagnosis is bad enough to experience, and to acknowledge that this person you love so dearly will pass away. Even though we all know that none of us is immortal, we also don’t really like to think about death or those we love dying before ourselves. Then as you deal with the aftermath of diagnosis, there is more grief. You know what is coming, but still feel unprepared. You see them becoming more sick, and you don’t want them to suffer. But we also want to not lose them. 

Anticipatory grief can feel heavy and burdensome, but it is not insurmountable. There are ways to mitigate the pain and to care for yourself if you are in a caregiver role during this season. 

1. As much as possible, connect to your loved one. Spend quality time with the person and make happy memories together as much as their diagnosis and your grief will allow. This could look like taking a special trip or having jewelry made in their memory to share. It could also be just spending time with them and talking and laughing together. Often a reaction to grief and pain in general is to pull away from the painful situation, but mental health professionals agree that this only causes regret when the loved one passes. Though it may feel difficult, spending time with the person you love will leave you never wondering if you could have said or done more. 

2. Think about and write down the things that remind you of that person. Maybe they’ve always loved butterflies or a certain type of flower. Or it could be something related to a sports team or their favorite band. It could even be related to a favorite memory you have with them. Whatever these things are, write them down. When they’ve passed, any time you see these things, it will help you remember them. In many cultures, people believe that a person is never really gone until those that loved them stop saying their name, so you can even make a practice of this. Saying their name aloud when you see the object or hear a song that reminds you of them can bring a flood of happiness and positive memories. This practice can carry you from the anticipatory grief stage through the physical loss and beyond. 

3. Connect with others who are dealing with similar situations. Often during a difficult diagnosis, medical teams can connect families with others who have the same or similar diagnoses. Being able to discuss your grief, anger, and pain with others who can truly empathize with you is incredibly impactful and can help the grief experience feel less alienating. Another place to look for community in this regard can actually be through social media. If you’re unable to find others with the same diagnosis or situation nearby, there is likely an online community. While virtual friendships may seem hollow, they can also provide a strong sense of belonging and understanding, especially in the case of a rare disease or diagnosis. 

4. If you are the caregiver of a person in terminal illness AND experiencing anticipatory grief, take care of yourself, too. In these situations, it is often family members who are also caregivers to the ill person. And while this gives everyone a chance to spend time together, caregiver burnout is very real. Medical offices should have resources for families to help find care for their loved ones and provide respite. If this isn’t offered for your family, ask to speak to a social worker who can aid in the process. 

5. Seek counseling as you move through the grief process. Grief never looks the same for any two people. Some find purpose in supporting causes for the diagnosis that took their loved one. Other people may need time to retreat from thinking about the loss. Whatever grief looks like for you personally, a counselor or therapist can truly help you navigate both the anticipatory grief and the grief after loss. Not getting help during a season of grief is not a sign of strength or a badge of courage. If you’re having a difficult time, the best thing you can do is seek help for yourself. If you’re unsure where to start, click the link below to connect with one of our licensed, experienced therapists today. 

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight: Darla Ferreira, Relationship Coach

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would love for you to get to know one of our Relationship Coaches, Darla Ferreira. An expert in Laura Doyle’s six intimacy skills, Darla takes the transformation of her own marriage and helps women break through stagnancy in their relationships to gain intimacy and closeness in their relationships. We are so thankful for her expertise and passion! If you’re interested in learning more about Relationship Coaching with Darla, click the link at the bottom of her interview.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

Thirteen years into marriage I found Laura Doyle’s six intimacy skills by accident. At the time, my marriage wasn’t what I had dreamed of. I thought that I couldn’t feel “in love” again and have the intimacy for which I yearned. Our story had a fairytale start, but at one time my husband couldn’t even tell me he loved me. I tried the skills one by one and amazingly my love life changed. There was such a dramatic difference that I knew I had to become a relationship coach and allow as many women as possible to learn about the skills. I went through Laura Doyle’s relationship coaching program where I had to become an expert in the skills, apply them in depth, and prove the transformation in my own life in order to obtain certification.  

I am originally from Cajun country in South Louisiana (so you may hear a slight accent). My husband and I moved as a newlyweds to Texas in 2005 to help a pastor plant a church. I have a Bachelor of Science in Microbiology and minors in Chemistry and Political Science from LSU. I received my Doctor of Optometry degree from Southern College of Optometry in TN. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I only coach women who would like a breakthrough in their relationship. By the wife showing up differently, the husband changes (even without his conscious effort). It’s a control free process. I’ve seen marriages healed and restored without the husband going to counseling. I help her see that she can only control what’s on her paper, and that’s what we focus on. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

Well, I do have another job. I’m an optometrist most days. I have passion for vision in both optometry and coaching. 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

The main struggles I try to help clients with are ones I faced myself. I thought I was the most respectful wife out there. I was wrong. Being controlling or disrespectful wasn’t what I thought it looked like. I just didn’t know and wasn’t taught before learning the skills. I didn’t know being “helpful” in male language is being controlling. I thought it was my responsibility to help him with his life and choices. I thought it was his responsibility to make me happy. I didn’t take enough care of myself. I felt resentful. I wanted more time and attention. I can help a woman through a betrayal with dignity. These are the main struggles I help women in my sessions. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my husband the most. I have so much genuine respect for him. He moved here from another country to marry me and now that I give him the respect and gratitude he deserves, he always rises to the occasion. I know I can trust him and turn to him when I need him, instead of trying to do too much. He takes care of our family. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Stop helping your husband, Darla! Read The Empowered Wife. It’s not your husband’s responsibility to make you happy. You’re going to have the marriage you dreamed about. You’re going to have beauty for ashes. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

You can change the whole course of your life. Divorce is expensive. Save your marriage, be less stressed, be a role model of a terrific marriage for your kids, have a peaceful household, and learn how to take care of yourself. It’s totally worth it. You do have to be willing to become your best self though.

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Dogs because of the unconditional love they give. I love a cat’s independence though. I’m allergic to both sadly. 

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I love sweet and savory together, but not on my pizza. 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Kyoto for sushi

What do you like to do in your free time?

I like to read dystopian novels and watch period piece movies and series. I also love to take naps, shop, and take my little one to the library for story time. 

What’s your favorite time of year?

Fall

Tell us a little about your family.

I’ve been married for 18 years. I thought I was done having children after having an amazing daughter, but at 40, I had a baby boy. They are now 14 and 4. 

What is your favorite place to visit?

I love going on all-inclusive beach vacations to Mexico.  

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

My great grandfather because my family recently learned some interesting things about him that have left a legacy for my family. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I’m introverted. 

After School Talks: Communicating with Your Kid

With everyone’s kid headed back to school this month, similar conversations are happening in cars and at dinner tables all across the country, and they all sound about the same:

Parent:  What did you do at school today?

Kid:  Nothing

Parent:  Did anything exciting happen?

Kid:  No

Parent:  Did you learn anything new?

Kid:  No

If you’re a parent, you are all too familiar with this exchange. And to be honest, the conversations you had with your own parents probably sounded similar, too. We all think the same thing:  How are they doing nothing and learning nothing all day long? And the truth of the matter is that we know it’s not true.  Our kids aren’t spending 8 hours at school doing nothing, talking to no one, and having no memorable moments. So then, how do we get our kids to open up more about their day? We want to be involved, engaged parents, but if they won’t tell us about their day at school, where do we even begin? You are not alone in feeling this way, but there are simple ways you can make your after school or dinner table conversations more meaningful for both you and your child. 

Establish a strong foundation of communication with your kids. Try to build rituals of communication early in your kids’ lives. Whether this looks like a daily time when you all sit down to eat together or nightly chats before bedtime, if your kids know that you’re going to ask about their lives, these school related conversations will seem like less of a surprise or change of character, and more like your regular routine. Be sure to tell your kids that you love hearing all about their day. Listen with patience and practice reflective communication early on. Even in those toddler and preschool years when their stories ramble, or don’t make a ton of sense, you’re setting the stage for the future. Show your kids that you’re always willing and eager to hear about what they have to say. 

Ask your children specific questions about their day rather than open-ended or generic ones. This may seem counterintuitive, but it really does work! Rather than asking your kids “How was your day?” or “What did you learn about today?” Ask them who they sat next to at lunch or who they played with at recess. These types of questions will allow them to give more specific answers that they KNOW the answer to rather than trying to find the “right” way to answer how their day went. Then, you have more opportunity to ask follow-up questions. 

Avoid purely academic conversations right when they get in the car or off the bus. Remember that your kids just spent about 6+ hours learning and processing new information. They may not be ready to talk about how their math test went or if they remembered to redo their quiz in history. To them it might feel similar to someone grilling you about work right after you walk in the door from a long day at the office. Especially if your child struggles with school, they may need and want time to decompress from school before they get into the nitty gritty of grades. It may also make them feel as though all you care about are their grades, even if that’s not the case at all.

Kids can be introverted, too, so keep in mind that their silence or hesitancy isn’t personal. If your child is more introverted, a school day can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Just like for adults who are more introverted in nature, interacting with their peers, talking all day, and being in a large group at school may drain your child’s social battery. If when they get into your car at pick up they’re grumpy or non-communicative, it may not even be about you at all. They may simply need time to sit in silence before they’re ready for more conversations and interactions. Talk with your kids about their needs in this regard by letting them know you care about their emotional needs. It can be as simple as saying, “I know school may be really tiring for you, so it’s okay if you need some space. Let’s talk about your day after we get home and you’ve had a snack.” 

Be fully present when talking with your kids. This is a great time of day to model listening for your child. It’s time to put your phone away, close your laptop for work, and really pay attention. Kids are observant, so if you’re asking them to tell you about their day, but constantly checking your phone, texting someone, or distracted by the TV, it won’t be long before they pick up on that and feel like you don’t really mean it when you say that you’re interested. 

These interactions with your children are truly some of the most important. It’s how you can learn more about what makes your kid who they are. What are their passions? What types of things make them laugh? Are they the kid including others on the playground, or do they maybe need help finding a friend? Are they truly enjoying the activities they’re involved in, or are they struggling to feel successful? Further, these conversations may help you identify potential warning signs for issues that need to be addressed in more detail at another time. 

If you’re struggling with communicating with your child in those after-school moments, know that you’re not alone! And if you need more help or guidance in communicating with your kids, please reach out to us at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. We have so many loving, highly trained therapists and counselors who can help you in this area and get everyone in your family communicating openly and effectively!

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Greg Stehman, LMFT

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Greg Stehman is one of the many LMFTs we are proud to have on staff here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. As a 28 year veteran of the US Navy, Greg brings an incredibly valuable life experience and wisdom to his patients. We are so glad to have him working with and helping those in our community. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I was born in PA, but grew up near Tyler, Texas. I attended Texas Tech University and received my undergraduate in Political Science.   I was commissioned in the US Navy and served for 28+ years.  After a series of life events, I decided to study Marriage & Family Therapy at Liberty University.     

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am passionate about helping couples work through the trauma and chaos of infidelity and/or are dealing with sexual addiction.   I am also interested in helping others who struggle with anxiety, depression and PTSD.  As a veteran, I have personally experienced each of these areas.   

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

 I would love to be an author and write about my experiences in my 28 year military career. I would also like to co-author a book with my wife, Lori about our infidelity story.   

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

One of the biggest struggles facing infidelity couples are the questions such as,   “How do I deal with the effects of infidelity? Is there any hope for our marriage? How will I ever trust again? How do I deal with the pain caused by infidelity? I can’t stop thinking about the affair?”

In addition, there are so many pressures in today’s world and our daily lives can be quite complex and overwhelming. Many clients just need to work through a few issues to relieve the daily pressure of life and regain a sense of hopefulness.   

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My wife…she is very forgiving and the most patient person in my life.  She has sacrificed her career time and time again so that I could serve in the U.S. Navy. Lori is also extremely flexible as we have had over 20+ military moves in our     28 years of service.   Lori is an amazing mom to our two children and the perfect life partner for me.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Seek help and do not keep your struggles to yourself.   

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Therapy is the first step towards healing and the first step is always the hardest. Therapy can open the door to being seen, felt, understood and perhaps validated in your recovery journey.  Do not walk the journey alone.  Therapy can take time and money, but YOU are worth the investment. Be purposeful and intentional on your journey towards healing. 

What’s your favorite type of food? 

Too many….Thai, Korean BBQ, Vietnamese, and Mexican 

What do you like to do in your free time? 

Love to go to gym, hang out with family and friends, and try different restaurants

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Fall; nice crisp cool evenings and the leaves are changing colors 

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married for 31 years and have a 27 year old son and a 24 year old daughter. 

What is your favorite place to visit?  

Asia, but specifically Vietnam. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both? 

Definitely an introvert!

A Silent Epidemic: Pornography Addiction

Part Two: Pornography And Its Effect On Relationships

Last week in the blog we took a difficult yet important look at how pornography consumption plays into mental health issues for individuals. Its addictive nature and negative impact on brain chemistry create a negative feedback loop that make pornography consumption dangerous, especially to those who already struggle with anxiety, depression, or other mental illness. 

But you may be thinking, “Is porn really that bad if I don’t struggle with addiction or mental health issues?” The short answer, is yes. Today, we’ll be taking a closer look at how pornography consumption and addiction affects relationships, and even though the porn industry would have you believe that watching pornography improves intimacy, the research shows this is simply not the case.

Pornography negatively impacts people’s sex lives.

Because pornography is so unrealistic, it creates unrealistic expectations of what sex and even one’s partner should look like. Young people whose only education about people’s bodies and sexual encounters comes from pornography are more likely to be dissatisfied with their actual sexual experiences because they’re not the curated, directed scenes they’ve come across in pornography. They’re unable to develop healthy ideas about sexual encounters and more likely to engage in risky sexual behaviors because they’ve seen these things portrayed. Porn can also skew people’s views about their partners’ bodies and create subliminal ideas about what our partners should look like and how they should perform. When reality doesn’t meet these false expectations, consumers turn back to pornography, feeding into the consumption loop. Finally, and maybe most surprisingly to some, pornography has actually been shown to have links to sexual dysfunction.

Pornography increases sexual objectification

Pornography also disconnects the consumer from their arousal. Simply put, when watching pornography, a person does not have to connect emotionally, or at all, with the person causing them to be aroused or giving them sexual gratification. When consumed continually, as is the nature of porn, this leads to objectification, particularly of women. In pornography, women are often portrayed as objects to be used for sexual satisfaction. They’re not humans with needs, desires, emotions, or boundaries. They can be used however the creators see fit. Medical researchers have noted that as men viewed sexualized women repeatedly, the medical prefrontal cortex (mPFC) that allows our brain to distinguish human faces was not activated. Their brains did not even realize they were looking at a human, merely a collection of body parts. When women are seen this way, it has shown to lead to an increase in violent thoughts against women, men who are less likely to step in during an assault, and an increase in victim blaming in cases of sexual assault. These are just the effects of objectification on the consumer of pornography. Researchers have also seen that when someone’s partner routinely consumes porn, they internalize the sexual objectification. They’re more likely to feel their partner is using them as a warm body rather than connecting intimately. Further, research has also shown that women whose partners consume porn regularly are more likely to have body image issues, problems with low self-esteem, and develop eating disorders. Pornography shows “cultural ideals” of beauty. Typically very thin women with no blemishes, stretch marks, or just normal appearance. When this is the “beauty standard” one’s partner regularly sees, it’s damaging to the relationship and the individual on the other end. But this is not the only way that pornography consumption can hurt one’s partner. 

Pornography leads to secretive behavior and lack of communication

Porn is everywhere, and yet it is also still taboo. This means that many consumers of pornography hide their use from their partners. While it is not uncommon for women to consume porn, research has shown that men are the main consumers, viewing porn weekly or even daily. Many times this consumption is hidden from their partners, and when it is discovered leads to feelings of betrayal, rejection, loneliness, and anger. Many women have described it as feeling they have been cheated on, and if the boundary was not set in the relationship, they feel they have “no leg to stand on” because their partner “didn’t actually cheat.” Even if pornography use is discussed within the relationship, it still causes the issues discussed above. Objectification, lack of connection, and unrealistic performance and beauty standards all have severe consequences within a relationship. If the porn one’s partner consumes has perpetually young, perfectly airbrushed, surgically enhanced people, it’s no wonder we feel like our partners are dissatisfied with us. These unrealistic expectations go both ways and effect men and women in relationships equally. 

Pornography is truly a silent epidemic in our world. We don’t talk about its damages because we don’t want to seem “prude” or “behind the times.” But the reality of pornography consumption is that it is damaging. Regardless of your religious beliefs or sexual history, pornography has negative impacts on relationships. If you’re interested in learning more and reading the specific research studies we gleaned this information from, head to fightthenewdrug.org to learn more about how pornography is impacting individuals, relationships, and our society at large.

If you, your partner, or someone else in your life is struggling with pornography consumption or addiction, we truly want to help without judgment or shame. You CAN build a healthy sex life outside of pornography, and you CAN break the addiction cycles that pornography creates. We would be honored to help you rebuild relationships and create healthy patterns outside of pornography. You can reach out to one of our therapists by clicking the link below. 

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Natalie Shepherd, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S

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This week, Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would like to introduce you to Natalie Shepherd. Natalie works as an LPC-S, LMFT-S, and RPT-S. This means that in addition to caring for her own patients, she is also a huge asset to us in supervising new therapists as they complete their training. We are so thankful for Natalie’s expertise and passion, and we’d love for you to get to know her a bit more.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I knew in high school that I wanted to be a counselor. In high school, I enjoyed listening to my friends’ problems and trying to help them. They even referred to me as their counselor! I knew I wanted a job where I made a difference. As cheesy as it sounds, I have always said that I want to do my part to make the world a better place. I received my B.S. in Family Studies at Texas Tech. I received my M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy from TWU. I am a West Texas girl and grew up in Midland. After I graduated from Tech, most of my college friends moved to the Dallas area and I thought that sounded like a great idea. I met my husband in Dallas and we built our house and family in Rockwall. We have lived in Rockwall now for 19 years. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am passionate about multiple areas. I love working with young children in play therapy. Play therapy often feels like a magical process and it’s amazing to see how quickly kids can make changes. I love working with parents to support them and help them feel better equipped. I love working with teens. Nothing keeps you on your toes or humbles you more than working with teens! I also love working with adults. It is so rewarding to walk alongside someone to help them with their goals and to support them. I like Solution Focused Therapy and Cognitive Behavior Therapy because I want people to feel that they are leaving each session with new tools. I love teaching people a technique called Tapping to help them manage strong emotions. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I honestly can’t imagine doing anything else. I love my job. I love going to work. However, if I had any talent (which I don’t) I would love to be an actress in Broadway musicals. I love musicals and when I’m in the audience, I am smiling the entire time and wish I could jump on stage with them. 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

We are all still adjusting to a post-pandemic world and how that affected us. Kids and teens are experiencing anxiety and depression at higher rates than I’ve ever seen in my 23 years of counseling. As we all know now, technology has affected our kids greatly and has created many new challenges for families. I see many adults struggling with work/life balance and self care. I see many people figuring out how to cope with life transitions. Another common struggle is learning about boundaries and how to set them. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My mom. She is a retired teacher. She taught me the value of education and hard work. She taught me independence and how to be assertive. She always had my back and didn’t hesitate to speak up on my behalf. She has been my rock and my support throughout every season of life. I wouldn’t be the person or the mother I am today without her influence. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Oh, this is going to be so cliche but it’s so true: Don’t sweat the small stuff. I worried so much in my younger years. I would also tell my younger self to not compare my journey to anyone else’s journey. Stay true to yourself and work hard. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

One statement that I hear repeatedly is people saying “I should have started this years ago.” People tend to minimize their experiences and feel that they have to “justify” going to therapy. I get to witness the power of therapy every day. I wish people knew how life changing it can be. It’s important to invest in yourself and therapy is one way to do that. I believe in making it more affordable for people to come by accepting several insurance plans. 

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

Dogs all the way! I don’t understand cats. I love dogs. I’ve had dogs my entire life and always will. I currently have 2, a King Cavalier Spaniel named Ollie and a Yorkie mix named Lucy. 

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I don’t have big feelings about it, but I don’t want it on mine. 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Bin 303, Zanata, Charlie’s, Standard Service

What do you like to do in your free time?

Spend time with family and friends, exercise, read, shop, try new restaurants

What’s your favorite time of year?

I can’t pick! Summer is great because I love swimming, spending more time with my kids, vacations, and more relaxed schedules. Fall is great because of the cooler weather and I love the feel of new beginnings, such as a new school year. Winter is great because I enjoy cold weather and the holiday season. Spring is great because of the weather and sunshine. I also like the “end of year” celebrations and closures that come with the end of a school year. 

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married for 22 years. We have an 18 year old daughter who is about to be a Senior and a 8 year old son. We have 2 dogs, 2 fish, and a hedgehog. 

What is your favorite place to visit?

Playa del Carmen, Hawaii

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Oprah. I think she would be fascinating to talk to and fun to spend time with. I watched her show for years and admired her authenticity. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Extroverted but being an only child, I have always valued my alone time as well. 

A Silent Epidemic: Pornography Addiction

Part One: Pornography and Its Effect on the Brain

With access to the internet literally in our pockets, information, shopping, and connection are only seconds away at all times. And while all of this access helps us and our world in so many ways, there is a very real threat that we have more access to than ever before - pornography. While some may brush off viewing pornography as “just porn” or “not a big deal,” the reality is that pornography negatively impacts individuals, our relationships, and society as a whole. Over this two part series, we will take a look at how pornography negatively affects individuals and relationships. We want to be transparent and upfront that pornography has very negative impacts, and as we’ll discuss in this article, viewing pornography has similar effects on the brain to using tobacco or other addictive substances. We want to encourage you that if you or someone you love is struggling with pornography use or addiction, you can break through and have freedom. 

Before the rise of the internet, pornography was much more taboo. It was consumed or purchased in secret with much more difficult access, but in today’s digital society, it is everywhere, all the time. And with it, so are the negative impacts it has on individuals and their mental health. 

Pornography changes your brain

There are two main ways in which pornography consumption changes our brains for the worse. 

1. Solidified pathways through an over-production of Delta-FosB mean that it’s easy for pornography consumers to repeat the behavior over and over. We’ve all heard the phrase “just like riding a bike” in reference to something we learned a long time ago but is easy to repeat because we “just remember” how to do it. This happens because when we learn to do something new, particularly if it is fun and repetitive, our brains produce the chemical Delta-FosB, which makes the nerve pathways in our brain stay in place for a long period of time. This same concept applies to unhealthy behaviors, too. Pornography, whether we like to face this reality or not, is pleasurable and repetitive. This means that when a person consumes pornography, Delta-FosB is produced, solidifying the pathway in the brain that says, “Repeat this action again! It was fun!” 

2. Supernormal imaging of pornography makes its consumption more “rewarding” than real life; hijacking our brain’s pleasure center. “Supernormal” is a phrase used to describe something that is an amplified version of reality. This applies to pornography because while it uses real humans, it only uses them in amplified, unrealistic ways, resulting in reality being less appealing. A way to think of it is this:  If you only ate at five-star restaurants for a year, you probably would all of a sudden find your mom’s cooking lackluster. Pornography warps our sense of what real intimacy looks like because it exposes us to supernormal intimacy. 

Pornography can become an addiction

Because of these changes to our brain chemistry when we consume pornography, it can become an addiction. In addition to Delta-FosB solidifying pathways in our brain when we complete a repetitive, pleasurable action, our brains also release dopamine when we consume addictive substances. The process of this is complex, and you can read more about it here, but the bottom-line is that your brain treats pornography like nicotine or another addictive substance. The brain releases dopamine when you consume it. Every time you have this dopamine release, you crave more and more dopamine, and eventually the substance causes you to make poor decisions in an effort to obtain your next high. People who consume porn are more likely to have trouble controlling other impulses as well because it causes their brain’s prefrontal cortex to have lower decision-making abilities. Pornographhy can be an addiction, and should be treated as such. Just as with any other type of addiction, please seek professional help for dealing with this. You can recover, and you don’t have to do it alone. 

Pornography increases stress responses

Finally, if pornography consumption reaches an addictive state, it adds to a person’s stress response, making mental health issues appear or worsen. Stress can have some benefits, like pushing us to accomplish a goal, but when a person suffers from an addiction, stress only adds to the problem. Let’s say a person with a pornography addiction enters a stressful situation at work. Their reward center in their brain will seek dopamine to off-set the stress. Where do they get dopamine? Pornography. The more stress, the more they seek the addictive substance. Further, if they’re removed from the abused substance, they will feel stressed, causing them to want it even more. People with pornography addiction have been seen to undergo withdrawals similar to that of other drug addictions or people trying to quit smoking. 

So what can be done?

All of this information is frightening for sure. With the prevalence of pornography and the ease with which it is accessed by anyone of any age at any time, it may feel hopeless. If your life is already being negatively affected by pornography, we want you to know that there is hope. We want you to live a life free from the oppression of pornography. We want your relationships to thrive, and we want your mental state to flourish. If you or someone you care about is struggling with pornography consumption or addiction, please reach out to one of our therapists. We have so many loving, compassionate professionals who would love to walk through healing with you.

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Dixie Webster, LPC-Associate Supervised by Lauren Coats, LPC-S

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Dixie Webster is one of the many LPC-Associates we have the privilege of supervising during their training here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. LPCs undergo an extensive training and internship process before becoming fully licensed to practice independently, and we are so grateful Dixie chose to do her associate work here. Her dedication to her patients is evident, and we can’t wait for you to know more about her!

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

Counseling is actually my second career. Previously I worked as the Global Director of Training and Compliance for a large corporation. A few years ago, I felt God leading me to do something more intimate and personal in my work. I was strongly influenced by missions and volunteer work that involved serving survivors of domestic violence and the sex slave trade. I developed a deep passion for working with traumatized individuals and supporting them in their recovery journey. This led to a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Grand Canyon University in Arizona. I feel incredibly blessed to have been accepted into the practice at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness for my practicum and internship and I have continued on as a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate. I am on track to complete full licensure by spring of 2024. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am passionate about helping people to overcome the impact of past trauma, abuse, and neglect in all forms. Recently I have been working specifically with attachment wounds. I am amazed at the significant impact unhealthy attachment can have on adult relationships. However, I am also hopeful as I see the results that can be achieved when we find healing. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I would be teaching or educating in some way. I love to collaborate and share information. I feel like our community becomes stronger when we share what we know with each other. I love seeing people get the tools they need to be successful. It is something I do as a counselor, but I find myself constantly sharing and teaching others in all aspects of my life. 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Almost every client I see is stuck in their fight or flight cycle. Their bodies are constantly sensing threats from the world around them, but they don’t know how to stop the cycle and return to a sense of safety. This results in a pervasive sense of impending doom for many people, and they live in a constant state of anxiety and stress or depression as a result. One of the most important skills I teach is helping clients to stop the threat response and reengage their logical processing systems. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My husband, Scott Webster. He is an amazing man in so many ways. More than anyone else in my life he has taught me the values of integrity, dedication, perseverance, and communication. These values have led to success in life but also incredible personal healing in relationships. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Stop chasing acceptance from people. Everyone has their own idea of what is good enough and I have learned over the years that you will never be able to please everyone. It is absolutely exhausting and defeating to chase the ever-changing standards of the world. Instead, I recognize that I am a beloved daughter of God created by him to serve a purpose. When I discovered and embraced my God-given purpose and embraced the acceptance I have in Him it gave me incredible freedom. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Like most things in life, you get out of therapy what you put into it. Come into it prepared to dig deep and do the work of self-discovery and change. If you are willing to do that, the things you can learn are life-altering and priceless. We invest in so many things that we look at five years later and toss out because we aren’t using them anymore. Why not invest in yourself in a way that gives you a shot at living a healthier life with stronger relationships?  That is rarely something you regret.

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

I am a cat person. My cat Giovanni has more personality and spunk than any other kitty I have owned. I also find a cat sitting in your lap warm and purring to be incredibly therapeutic, so he is very good for me. 

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I’m more equal opportunity when it comes to food. I like all types of food and will try all kinds of combinations of flavors. The only thing I can’t do is curry – bad experience when traveling to India – don’t ask. 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

I love to eat at Zanatas. The food is always fantastic, and I am able to find healthy options there. 

What do you like to do in your free time?

I love to read, and I crochet when I need to keep my hands busy. I also enjoy swimming laps. It is a great relaxing exercise. 

What’s your favorite time of year?

Definitely Autumn. I love the colors, the cool crisp air, the smells of fall leaves and warm spices. There is nothing better than a cool evening in front of the firepit with a cup of hot chocolate. 

Tell us a little about your family.

I already mentioned my amazing husband, but we also have two wonderful children. Samantha is my oldest and she is married to Greg, a Navy Corpsman, and they have three boys (Gregory, Caspar, and Griffin ) that are full of energy and life. They live in Jacksonville; Florida and they love it there. Timothy is my youngest and I am grateful that he and his wife Katherine are here local. They also have three wonderful kids, 2 boys (Charlie and Jack) and the one little princess of the bunch (Dusty Rose). 

What is your favorite place to visit?

My husband and I went to Fiji for our 25th wedding anniversary and it was absolutely amazing. We ended up at a quiet resort that was so peaceful we didn’t want to come home. I have to say the most amazing thing about Fiji though is the people. They are wonderful!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Corrie ten Boom. Her book, “The Hiding Place” had a profound impact on me when I was young and shaped my ideas of holding on to your faith in the face of adversity. I love this quote from her about love and I find it to be true in my practice.

“Do you know what hurts so very much? It's love. Love is the strongest force in the world, and when it is blocked that means pain. There are two things we can do when this happens. We can kill that love so that it stops hurting. But then of course part of us dies, too. Or we can ask God to open up another route for that love to travel.” -Corrie ten Boom

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I am a quiet extrovert. I love engaging with people and that is where I get my energy, but I prefer intimate one on one or small group settings to large parties or crowds. 

More Than Just Games

Just like adults, children also benefit from therapy. Whether they are working through difficult emotions such as grief, coping with their parents’ divorce, needing to gain problem solving skills or coping tools, or struggling socially at school, therapy can be an excellent tool for parents to help their children through these challenges and many more. Working with children in therapy presents a unique set of circumstances. Often children, especially very young children, may not know exactly what they are struggling with or they may not have the vocabulary to communicate the emotions they’re feeling. One mode of therapy that can be incredibly helpful with these barriers to treating children is utilizing the help of a Registered Play Therapist. 

Registered Play Therapists do not merely see patients in a playroom, although this can be part of their treatment plans. The Association for Play Therapy distinguishes that Play Therapy is “the systematic use of a theoretical model to establish an interpersonal process wherein trained Play Therapists use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial difficulties and achieve optimal growth and development." So while spontaneous play is a part of the play therapy model, Play Therapy is much more complex and is based in research and clinical practice. 

What you can expect in play therapy

Your child’s play therapy session will vary based on what issue your child is working through. If your child is struggling with outbursts of anger, for example, the therapist may work with them on identifying that anger through role playing or make believe games. Then they may work toward giving them a healthy outlet for anger such as throwing soft toys or using an inflatable punching bag. However, if your child is working through the loss of a loved one, the RPT may allow your child to color pictures or play with dolls and allow the topic to come up naturally. 

You can also trust that working with an RPT will mean that your child is receiving therapy that uses a systemic approach. RPTs will use either a directed methodology in which they set up specific activities for a child based on goals they’re trying to achieve or they will use a non-directive approach which is more child-centered. Directive sessions are typically used for a child who is dealing with issues that need a more immediate solution. For example, if a child is struggling with problem solving, getting stuck when he or she has to do something themselves, the RPT may set up a session in which the child has to solve several problems such as reaching something on a shelf by using a stool. Or, if they are working on social skills the therapist may set up a session in which they use dolls or action figures to act out different social settings and talk about how to interact with peers and other people. Child-centered sessions will likely focus on more big picture issues:  dealing with grief or loss, anxiety, or other ongoing emotional struggles. In this type of approach, children can be given options for how they would like to play and by reflecting what the child is doing and how they are playing, they can help the child identify what they feel and why. 

OTHER FAQs

How long does a play therapy session last?

45-50 minutes is typical, but it may be longer or shorter depending on the age and needs of the child. The therapist will work with you to determine the best length of session for your child.

What issues can this help with?

As mentioned before, children can work through grief, anger, or other emotions at play therapy. Additionally, RPTs can help kids gain new social skills, work on coping skills for ADHD, OCD, anxiety, or depression. They can also help children cope with transitions in life that can be difficult such as divorce or a new sibling. 

Will I be a part of my child’s session?

This will also depend on the child’s age and his or her needs. Often, parents are asked to be part of play therapy sessions, but it can also be a distraction to the child. The therapist will work with you to determine what is appropriate and best for your child. 

What ages of children can participate in play therapy?

Most of the time RPTs will see children aged 3-12.

What if my child doesn’t enjoy “playing?” 

Play therapists understand that not every child, especially as they get older, may want to play typical games or with the same types of toys. RPTs are trained in how to use the same methodology in a wide variety of ways. They can sketch with older kids or play board games. They also often use reading books to implement the same strategies. 

Here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, we have several practitioners who specialize in Play Therapy. Natalie Shepherd, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S, Katheryn Chaney, LCSW-S, RPT-S, and Juliana Long, LPC, RPT are all Registered Play Therapists who are passionate about helping their patients achieve new goals and work through emotions or difficult times in their lives. At our Heath location, we have a dedicated Play Therapy room, set up especially to see patients working with one of our Play Therapists. We believe this type of therapy is so much more than just games. It is a way to empower children to identify their emotions, face challenges and cope with life’s difficulties. Learning these things at an early age truly sets children up to be healthy adults who know how to communicate and ask for help when they need it. If your child is struggling with any of the above mentioned issues or if you’re curious as to how Play Therapy might help your child, click the link below to book a call with one of our RPTs to learn more. 

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Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Juliana Long, LPC, RPT

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We’d love to introduce you to Juliana Long! Juliana is one of our therapists who also specializes in Child Centered Play Therapy here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, and we are so thankful for her passion and expertise. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I went to Texas A&M and received a B.S. in Psychology with a minor in Leadership Studies. After that, I went to Dallas Theological Seminary and received a Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling. I never lived in DFW until starting my Master’s, but I met my husband here and we’ve made it home! 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I see all ages in therapy and I am very passionate about clients struggling with anxiety and OCD symptoms. It’s a population that is easily misunderstood and often misdiagnosed. I really enjoy the honor of supporting clients as they grow to understand themselves more and branch out of their comfort zones to regain control over their lives. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

Probably something with rescue dogs. I have two of my own! I love the rescue process and the ability to give a dog a second chance.

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Technology’s role in our lives. It’s something that has evolved very rapidly over the years and is hard to keep up with. It exposes us all to much more than we are created to take in at one time and takes us away from our actual reality. This can lead to all sorts of consequences on our mental health. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My parents. They have both worked incredibly hard to break generational trauma and do better for their children than they were given as kids. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

You have the option to wait and see what actually happens instead of devoting so much of your time to worrying about what might happen. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Therapy is an investment in ourselves and in our future. Giving ourselves and those around us the gift of healing is something that can change the rest of our lives and impact the lives of those closest to us.  

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

I have owned both and love both, but my husband is allergic to cats so we are a dog family these days! 

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

Maybe on yours but not on mine! 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Standard Service 

What do you like to do in your free time?

I love to read, go to Aggie football games, cook new recipes, try new restaurants, and go on walks with my husband and our dogs. 

What’s your favorite time of year?

Summer! I love warm weather and a longer days. 

Tell us a little about your family.

I am the oldest of three and my younger brothers are twins. My parents live in College Station- my mom teaches high school and my dad is a professor at Texas A&M in the engineering department. I am married to Travis who is also a counselor!

What is your favorite place to visit?
I love to travel!  Earlier this year, I got to visit Cuba and it was an amazing time. My grandfather immigrated from Cuba as a teenager and I have always wanted to learn more about my heritage. I’d love to go back and spend more time with family there!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?
Queen Elizabeth II. She was thrown into the role of Queen because her uncle abdicated the throne and handled her reign with dignity and grace. I would love to learn more about her story from her! 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Introverted! I love being with people but I definitely recharge when I get to be alone. 

Trauma-Informed Care: How Your Therapist Can Create A Safe Space

One of the many reasons people may seek counseling is to deal with past trauma. Various types of therapy can be incredibly beneficial for people seeking to learn to cope with traumatizing events, but it is critical that while seeking this therapy, you find the right caregiver. Often people will “give up” on therapy because it “isn’t working” when in reality, they simply need to find the right person to guide their journey. If therapy hasn’t worked for you in the past, you may want to consider if your therapist addressed your trauma through trauma-informed care. What is trauma-informed care? Well, let’s define some things first!

Trauma is clinically defined as an emotional response to a terrible event. Even though when we experience trauma, the response may start as emotional, it can lead to physical responses as well such as panic attacks. Trauma can be brought on by any number of events. Most commonly people think of an accident, an assault, a death of a loved one, or other sudden, horrible event. However trauma isn’t just defined by the severity of the event, but how your own body responds to it. What may be traumatizing for you, would not be for another person and vice versa. You may have gone through a traumatic hospital stay when your child was born, or a traumatic divorce that lasted months on end. It is not up to another person to define what is traumatizing to you. If you have an emotional response when you think of the event or when you experience similar circumstances, it was traumatizing for you. 

Trauma-informed care is a set of concepts that can apply to any range of care for people who have experienced severe trauma in the past. Practitioners in the medical field, mental healthcare, and even exercise and wellness can use trauma-informed care practices to make clients and patients who have been through trauma feel more comfortable, at-ease, and safe in settings where they may encounter triggering situations, conversations, or events. At the core of trauma-informed care is the principle “do no harm,” meaning that trauma-informed caregivers and providers seek to ensure their treatments, classes or sessions do not add to the trauma response people may feel. In counseling, this may look different from therapist to therapist, but generally the concepts would remain the same. Even if a counselor is not specifically advertising “trauma-informed care” it is likely that he or she is putting these concepts into practice, and if you feel unsafe, address it with your therapist. 

1. Safety. Possibly the most important concept in trauma-informed care is that of safety. Your therapist or counselor should reassure you of your physical, emotional, and mental safety throughout your time with them. Especially during times when you are asked to relive or retell parts of your trauma in order to process these emotions, a trauma-informed session will ensure you, out loud, that you are safe. 

2. Trustworthiness. Just as in any healthy relationship, there must be trust between you and your provider in order for you to feel well-cared for. This means they should be consistent, provide and respect boundaries, and “do what they say they will do.” You should never feel surprised or caught off-guard by your therapist. 

3. Choice. People seeking therapy, especially for trauma, may have spent a good deal of their lives feeling out of control. Because of this, providing patients or clients with choice of how long sessions last, or topics to cover can provide a sense of relief. If you feel your therapy sessions are not following your cues in this regard, talk with your provider about how to have more control in your time with them.

4. Collaboration. Trauma-informed care should feel like a collaborative effort between patient and provider. Rather than following a strict set of protocols with no room for deviation, the patient and provider work together to come up with a plan for addressing important concerns and issues. As a patient in trauma-informed care, you have a contributing voice. And while no practitioner will let you simply ignore major concerns or issues, they will follow your lead and guide you rather than force you into their plan of care. However, it’s important to also note that even in trauma-informed care, if your therapist notices that you’re avoiding certain issues or topics entirely and instead want to focus on areas that aren’t helpful to you, they may let you know that you may not actually be ready for therapy.

5. Empowerment. The ultimate goal of trauma-informed therapy is for you to have tools and coping skills of your own. A trauma-informed provider wants to make sure that you feel empowered to walk away from his or her office and be “discharged” from their care. While they’re always there to help you process as needed, they truly want to see you recover from trauma and support your own resilience. 

If you have sought therapy or counseling previously, and it didn’t work out for you or you felt unsure of what you experienced, it may have been because some of these aspects of trauma-informed care were not being met for you. Counselors at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness can help you process trauma or work through relationship issues in your life in a way that makes you feel safe, empowered, and heard. Their goal is always to “do no harm” and they want to see you succeed. If you’re interested in meeting with one of our qualified counselors, click the link below to start your journey toward healing today!

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By Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer